How To Be An Effective Mother To Daughters

 Okay, let me start off by saying I have two girls. ( HELP) lol. First and foremost, if it wasn't for them, I don't know how hard I would've gone for anything. They inspire me everyday to do better and to take smart risks that WILL pay off. Raising girls is very very hard and whoever told you that it isn't, is lying to you lol. It doesn't necessarily mean that its hard raising girls because they are bad, it's more so making sure we teach them the importance of womanhood, self worth, values, and the list goes on. Everyone obviously has different parenting skills. So take what you need and leave what you don't.

Tell your daughters the truth about society

I'm sorry, but I am not the type of mother that hides things from my girls. I tell them the truth about everything that I feel is age appropriate or I explain it on the level of their age. For example, in our household we speak a lot about racial injustice and how it is so unfortunate that my girls are in a society where they have to work twice as hard because of the color of their skin. I tell my girls that they can be WHATEVER they want to be and to not take no shit from anyone. I see so many people are comfortable with talking crazy nowadays. We watch the news together, The protests on television, and my husband is always watching a documentary and I want my girls to know that this world is not peaches and cream. When we see a homeless person on the street, the girls always asks myself or my husband why they live on the street and we tell them it can be many factors and it can easily be us as well if we don't do what we need to do. 

Spend quality time with them

Quality time can easily mean laying on the bed together and watching a show, playing a game or even watching Tik Tok with them lol. Once in a while, I would have a "girls day" with them (if they behave) and I would pay for us all to get our nails done and get Starbucks. (my girls are divas). Letting them vent about friendship problems or just being plain emotional is making them feel confident and safe coming to talk to you. Going for walks is also ideal too. With my oldest, I get all the tea lol.

 

Pray On Them

My girls know that I am always praying for them or praying on them. I am constantly blessing them with sage and speaking good things on their lives. Moms. it is vital that we pray on our daughters especially in a crazy world as this. Make sure you are praying over them 24/7. 

Always Say, "I Love You"

Make it a habit to say "I love you" one thing I can say about our family, we ALWAYS say those words. I want my girls to know that both mommy and daddy love them unconditionally. Sometimes, that's all a kid wants to hear for reassurance.

 

DISCIPLINE 

Don't  listen to anyone that tells you NOT to discipline your child(ren). In my household we serve the Lord and butt whoopings lol. Ever heard the saying "spare the rod and spoil the child" my point exactly. If you don't put your daughters in place at a young age, they will grow up doing God knows what. Thankfully, I do not have to spank my girls all time. 

Having a daughter is having a permanent best friend for life. If you ever feel like you are not a good mom, shift your mindset and know that if you feel bothered by that, then that means YOU ARE A GOOD MOM. If you didn't care, you wouldn't think about it. There are many different strategies to be an effective mom to daughters. This is what works for me and my girls... There could be other tips that can work for you. 

Later Love Bugs,

Elizabeth Jacas