Everyone has their own interpretations of the term "Friendship" I know some people that call everyone their friend. I also know some people who calls everyone their associate.

    When I was younger, I used the term friendship very loosely and  I am pretty sure most of you used it too (It was cool back then). I think coming from a younger perspective, it was about being accepted and just surrounded by people all the time.  I often associated having a lot of friends with being popular. Which most kids want to be right?

    I also believe that when you reach a certain point in your life and I am not only referring to "age" because some individuals do not mature with age(let's be realistic). I think our views and mindsets change when we go through different stages in life. For example, I did not realize having a lot of friends was not good for me until my senior year in high school. I noticed I was getting into situations, I had no business getting into. I started distancing myself from a few people. You ever heard the saying " You are who you hang out with" or "Guilty by association" Yup, those are some strong sayings lol. 

    It is imperative to surround yourself with people who will uplift you and bring you joy, not drama. If someone in your circle is not pushing you to do better or you are not inspired by them...hmmmm I think that friendship needs to be reevaluated. If the friendship is one-sided where you catch yourself always making the first move to send a text or call then that person does NOT value your friendship and does not care to make time for you. I get it, we are all busy, but we can make time to send a "hey, just checking in" message and that literally can be it. For those in the back SOCIAL MEDIA DOES NOT COUNT! lol

    Your friendships should be based on quality and no quantity. I rather have one real friend than a group of fake ones(make sense?). If you have at least one area one on your team, thank God for them. Pray over them and your friendship. I have to guard myself because of some people I let in that shouldn't have stayed in my life past their season. You will know if your friend(s) is truly genuine. Discernment is no joke. Red flags will always appear. I created kind of like a "table" of "How to spot a friend" and "How to spot a "not so much" friend" lol below. 

How To Spot a Real Friend
  • Motivates and inspires you to do better
  • Values your friendship
  • Celebrates your wins with you and is truly happy for you
  • Will tell you the truth no matter what
  • Makes time for you
  • Supports you and your ideas
  • There for good and bad times
  • Has your back in front of you and when you are not around
    (This also goes both ways, remember that)

How To Spot a Fake Friend

Add "DOES NOT" in front of all the things on "How to spot a real friend" lol Period! ex. "DOES NOT motivate or inspire you to do better"

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Later Love Bugs,
Elizabeth Jacas